Obstacles are Opportunities

Have you reached an impasse in your relationship? Does it feel like you are stuck in negative patterns of relating? Are you questioning whether you chose the right person? Remember, there is so much more to creating an amazing relationship than choosing each other. Perhaps essential considerations might be: How am I contributing to this impasse? What one thing could I consistently do that might help?

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand - "Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition."

What are the roadblocks or obstacles in your relationship that interfere with the smooth flow of your days? Are you ignoring the challenges? Are you throwing blame? Just as the peasant, you may need to pause in the busyness of your life and put effort into addressing the issues.

In our relationships, when we take the challenge to face up to, and work to remove obstacles that may be preventing closeness and harmony, we may be surprised to find hidden treasures awaiting our persistent and loving efforts. We also need to avoid throwing blame as the wealthy merchants and couriers did. Blaming, although it may feel good momentarily, does nothing to solve problems and heal relationships. What is required is the humility and willingness to accept responsibility to do something to improve things as the peasant did.